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Safety Planning

If you are still in the relationship:

  • Think of a safe place to go if an argument occurs - avoid rooms with no exits (bathroom), or rooms with potential weapons (kitchen).
  • Think about and make a list of safe people to contact.
  • Keep small change with you at all times (for phone, bus, etc).
  • Memorize all important numbers (SSN, phone numbers, etc).
  • Establish a "code word" or "sign" so that family, friends, teachers or co-workers know when to call for help.
  • Think about what you will say to your partner if he\she becomes violent.

Remember, you have the right to live without fear and violence.

If you have left the relationship:

  • Change your phone number.
  • Screen calls (get caller ID or let your machine pick up and listen before answering).
  • Save and document all contacts, messages, injuries or other incidents involving the batterer (make a copy of this and put it in a safe place or with a safe friend).
  • Change locks, if the batterer has a key.
  • Avoid staying alone.
  • Plan how to get away if confronted by an abusive partner.
  • If you have to meet your partner, do it in a public place (shopping mall, coffee shop, restaurant).
  • Vary your routine.
  • Notify school and work contacts.
  • Call a shelter for battered women or come to the San Diego Family Justice Center.
  • Open up a checking/savings account in only your name. Do not continue to use your joint account.

Important papers

If you leave the relationship or are thinking of leaving, you should take important papers and documents with you to enable you to apply for benefits or take legal action.

  • Social security cards
  • Birth certificates for you and your children
  • Your marriage license (or domestic partnership papers)
  • Leases or deeds in your name or both yours and your partner's names
  • Checkbook, charge cards, statements and charge account statements
  • Insurance policies
  • Proof of income for you and your spouse (pay stubs or W-2's)
  • Any documentation of past incidents of abuse (photos, police reports, medical records, etc.)

Please come to the San Diego Family Justice Center if you would like to meet with someone for a more specialized and extensive safety plan.

Contact

San Diego Family Justice Center
(866) 933-HOPE or (866) 933-4673

San Diego Domestic Violence Hotline
(888) DV-LINKS (385-4657)

Additional Contact Information

Location

1122 Broadway, Suite 200
San Diego, CA 92101

Directions to the Center

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